Wednesday, October 24, 2012
Handsome Yoruba actor, Oreoluwa Jokotoye popularly known as Bigvai and his embittered lover, Bukola Temitope Ajayi. According to a distressed blackberry broadcast message sent by the handsome actor on Sunday night, he alleged that his lover is after his life and that she allegedly duped some of his (Bigvai) colleagues in the industry of their hard-earn money worth over 1.5million naira.
The blackberry broadcast from Bigvai read: “Bigvai Oreoluwa Jokotoye is my name. Pls, dis is 2 tell my friends, fans, colleagues and evry other Nigerians out there that I am not married 2 Bukola Temitope Ajayi. That she has duped my blood sister a sum of 500,000. Antar Laniyan 170, Abbey Lanre 240,000. Sunny Alli 130,000. Lola Idije 120,000 and other people whch include Lanre Hassan (Iya Awero), Ireti Osayemi, Juwon, Alhaji Adenrele and other crew members.
“She also stole 150,000 from me, she duped Bayo Tijani and his crew too. and she has vowed to kill me by sending assassin 2 me.
“Incase anything happens 2 me, she’s responsible oo. U can check my dp 4 her pix. Am appealing 2 u all 2 help me rebroadcast as fast as possible. Tanx.”
But in a reaction to the blackberry broadcast sent out by Bigvai, Bukola denied ever threatening his life. She claimed that Bigvai has been depending on him to survive. She denied duping those the actor alleged her to have defrauded, but claimed that after giving Bigvai the sum of two million naira to do a movie, a romantic relationship started between them.
Her own blackberry broadcast read: “My name is Ajayi Oluwabukola Temitope. It’s a big lie, i didn’t dupe Bigvai sister in anyway. I came to produce (a movie) and Bigvai Oreoluwa Jokotoye collected the sum of 2million naira from me and he promise to help me out. Along the line, we started dating. During the Itunu Awe, Baba Tee, Sodiq Adebayo came to pack everything in his house and i used my money to buy it back. I av bin feeding him for the past 3mnth now. I am even preganant for him now, but all what he want is my moni.
“If u guys notice, I am the one dat changed all his wardrobe for (him). He even said it dat wen he was with Adebayo Salami (Oga Bello) dat Oga Bello was using his star dat was why he left him. I did(nt) dupe anybdy. Oreoluwa Bigvai Jokotoye is a gold digger nd he depends on woman. I (he) stole my guds what (worth) 350k away. I nvr told him I’ll kill him. What is my gain if i kill him? Can his dead body bring back my moni, talkless (let alone) he being alive. I think he has metal pblm. I av hard diff story abt the way he dupe girls industry, lyk Habibat Jinad, Shai, BJ, Tola Ayeni etc. plssssss am nt a killer ooooooo. plsssss help me to rebroadcast.”
When contacted, Bigvai insisted that his BB broadcast was true. Asked if truly Bukola is three months pregnant for him, he said he has not yet received any medical report from the doctors concerning that.(REALLY?)
When asked if he indeed had a romantic affair with Bukky, he stuttered and said he would not want to talk about the issue anymore because he wouldn’t want the press to get involved in it
I hear he will join the likes of Trey Songs and Kendrick Lamar to perform at the BBC 1xtra live concert on November 12, 2012 at Brixton Academy in London.
This big feat comes on the heels of his announcement as Artiste of the year, and best new artiste, at Nigeria’s biggest music awards The Headies, last Saturday.
#well done Wizkid
Tuesday, October 23, 2012
Congratulations to the soon to be couple
48 hours after becoming Mrs Timberlake, Jessica Biel was seen walking around the Borgo Egnazia resort in Fasano, Italy, on Sunday, Dressed casually . She smiled broadly as she strolled and flashed her massive six-carat engagement ring.
Timberlake was also seen a day earlier also dressed casually, and wearing his wedding ring for the first time.
#Congratulations to the couple.......cute couple i must say
Monday, October 22, 2012
How have you been able to cope with the separation?
I don’t know what to say. The Bible says, “He makes all things beautiful in His own time.” When you are down at the rock bottom, that is when God will lift you up. People have died in their marriages, some have lost one part or the other, some are still married, they have spent 30, 40 years in their marriage. You have to make the best out of your situation and move up. I have so much I want to do, I don’t have to wallow in self pity. That is just an aspect of me. Marriage does not define anybody. Our daughter is the most important thing. We have to make sure she is happy, she gets the best.
Through it all, stories are flying all round. What was your reaction then, what lesson did you learn from it?
I was driving through traffic one day, a vendor who knew me brought a magazine, saying, “Na you be this, you have to buy it”. I just laughed. They said I was dating Tonye Cole. Tonye is like a brother to me, his wife was my school mother. I called the two of them and we laughed over it. It hurts. Yes, it does. It is now a year but it seemed like yesterday. I am here, smiling with you, I am just grateful for life.
No regret at all. My daughter came out of the union, she is the most beautiful thing ever.
Any possibility of reconciliation?
No reconciliation. Please, my daughter is the most important person, she is still part of us. we still talk about her, we are going to look after her. We talk about her welfare. The marriage just didn’t work out.
Any consideration for second marriage or new relationship?
(Laughs) I am not looking for anybody. If it comes, it comes. I cannot say I will never love any man again. I wouldn’t say that. I can’t say I won’t.
What led to the break – up?
I can’t say that.
At over 40, you are graceful. Can you tell us your beauty regime?
I work out regularly(yea,this i can personally attest to,have seen her on some occasions in lekki), maintenance culture is high. I love to rest, I love to travel, I eat right, I love massage. I then leave others to God. I was even dancing in DJ Zeez’s video, that was a traditional dance.
About your failed marriage, did he ever beat you?
No. He never did. I can’t just say why it failed. Marriage does not define anybody. Once it doesn’t work, we move on, although it hurts.
But I am sure so many people would have come along to date you now that you are single?
I am not looking in that direction but if an ideal man comes, it comes. I can’t say I would never love again.
#She remains very elegant no matter what, and looks very focused.God be with you ...
In the time since confirming her pregnancy on her official blog in July, the 24-year-old pop star has remained largely out of the spotlight as she focused on her baby-to-be. "The baby is healthy and she's so excited!"
Congratulations to her ....
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Fact #1: Most men are still in love with their wives when they cheat.
Men who cheat haven't fallen out of love; they've become unsatisfied with the current state of it. "Cheating usually occurs in the phase of compansionate love, when couples begin to settle down, have kids and solidify the life being built together," says clinical psychologist Andra Brosh, PhD. While they're fulfilled in some areas, like being a provider, the romance may be missing. "We more often think of women complaining about a lack of romance, but men feel it, too," says Dr. Brosh. "They frequently suffer in silence, believing they can't get what they want from their spouses." To avoid this in your marriage, plan nights out together, set aside time for sex and discuss hopes and dreams--not just workdays and your son's last soccer game.
Fact #2: Men usually cheat with women they know.
Cheaters don't generally pick up random women in bars. "My first husband cheated on me with a childhood friend," says Diane* from New York City. "His family was close to her family, so they never lost touch." Intimacy expert Mary Jo Rapini explains, "A lot of women think that all cheating women are floozies-not true. The relationships are usually friendships first." In fact, more than 60% of affairs start at work, according to Focus on the Family. A good idea: Make sure your husband feels more connected to you than to his business partner. "Spouses go to work, take care of their kids and do separate things at night. That has to stop," says Rapini. She suggests always going to bed at the same time and cuddling.
Fact #3: Men cheat to save their marriages.
"Men love their spouses, but they don't know how to fix their relationship problems, so they go outside their marriages to fill any holes," says licensed marriage and family therapist Susan Mandel, PhD. Men want it all and have the skewed notion that another woman will make the longing for something more disappear. Then, they can live happily ever after with their wife--and their mistress--without confronting the real issues.
Fact #4: Men hate themselves after affairs.
You may think of cheaters as men without morals, but while they may like what they did, they tend to despise themselves after their indiscretions. "If he puts his ego to the side, he'll feel like a piece of garbage," says relationship expert Charles J. Orlando, author of The Problem with Women...Is Men. "After all, he's betraying another human being who he claims to care about, so that takes its toll on every part of his psyche." A cheater can feel as though he's failed as a man.
Fact #5: Cheaters often get friskier with their wives when affairs begin.
Just because a husband's touchy-feely doesn't mean his marriage is on firm footing. "When a man starts cheating, he becomes hyperactive sexually,, explaining that his sex drive has been awakened, and his wife is still the one with whom he feels most comfortable sexually. If you notice a sudden change in your husband's sex drive, it should raise a red flag. Be on the lookout for the switch to flip off again. After the affair is solid, he may begin to pull away.
Fact #6: Women cheat just as much as men, and their affairs are more dangerous.
An Indiana University study shows that men and women cheat at the same rate. But "the reasons the sexes cheat are different,. He explains women are more likely to cheat for emotional satisfaction. "Online cheating--without any physical contact--is the most damaging type of infidelity. Becoming emotionally invested in another person means you've likely checked out of your marriage. But if it's just sex, it's less about attachment and more about a hurtful mistake.
Fact #7: A wife often knows her husband's cheating.
How could Tiger Woods's ex, Elin Nordegren, and Arnold Schwarzenegger's ex, Maria Shriver, not have known what their high-profile husbands were up to? They probably did, but couldn't bear to acknowledge it. "At one level, I knew, but my denial was so strong," says Lily* from Toronto, Canada. "The pain, had I accepted it at that time, would have been too horrendous, so I had to process it slowly. the jilted celebrities were likely doing the same thing: choosing what they could live with for the sake of their kids or to avoid humiliation and the fallout.
Fact #8: A couple will never work it out when the husband is in the midst of an affair.
They could agree to work on things, but it won't matter. If he's still in the throes of a hot, new romance, nothing a woman does will drag him out of it. He's got such positivity happening, without all the drama that exists in the established relationship. The marriage will likely fail, unless he decides on his own accord that life isn't better with the other woman. So the key is prevention. Continue to be the woman he first fell for throughout your marriage. Women often turn from a loving girlfriend into a nagging wife. Men aren't attracted to that.Dole out compliments and surprise him with sex--don't just yell at him about that towel on the bathroom floor.
Fact #9: Affairs can often fix a marriage.
Is infidelity the kiss of death for a couple? Not always. Although a new relationship is exciting, "an affair can rekindle the marriage, Men realize who they want for the rest of their lives and that the new relationship isn't as perfect as they thought.But think hard before returning to a cheater. Flings can highlight how little self-control someone has, Still, if it was truly a one-time slip, it's possible to get back on track.
Fact #10: Even after rebuilding the marriage, a husband may still miss the affair.
Sadly, he might love his wife and want to salvage the marriage, but he doesn't totally forget about the affair.He might miss the great things about the other woman-fun, zero responsibilities, sex, the rush or the chase--but oftentimes he misses how he feels about himself when he was with her, which is more damaging if he's trying to return to his marriage, Again, acting as you did when the relationship was new could help.
Fact #11: A cheater knows he's hurting the woman he loves, tearing his family apart and sacrificing his honor.
A man may realize the negative impact on his wife, family and himself, but still continue an affair. How? "It's all in the perception of the cheater, If he feels unwanted, undervalued and taken for granted, his personal needs of being wanted, valued and appreciated will win out.
Fact #12: The wife's not to blame if her husband cheats on her.
Realize this: If your husband is unfaithful, it's not your fault, no matter what people say. "When a man cheats, he's making a conscious choice to do it," "The idea of being pushed into the arms of another woman is an expression, not a reality.Men don't cheat because of who she is; they cheat because of who they're not,The 'fault' is that the signs of disconnection have been ignored by both parties."